How Do I Love Thee? Let me Count the Ways.
A 1 Corinthians 13 Checklist
In describing the qualities of Christian love, the apostle Paul tells us that Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV).
This checklist, a self-examination tool, can help you identify those areas in your relationship with your loved one where you excel, and where you can use some improvement. As you work through each step, keep Jesus’ words in mind: A new commandment I give you, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you are also to love one another. John 13:34 (ESV).
On a scale from 1 to 10, my love for ______________________________
is patient 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I show my impatience by ___________________________________________
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One way I can show more patience is _________________________________
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is kind 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I show unkindness by _____________________________________________
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One way I can demonstrate more kindness is ___________________________
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is not envious 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I am envious of __________________________________________________
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One way I can show more grace is __________________________________
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is not boastful 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I brag about ____________________________________________________
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One way I can be more considerate is _______________________________
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is not proud 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I allow my pride to ______________________________________________
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One way I can show more humility is _______________________________
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is not rude 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I am rude when ___________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________
One way I can show more consideration is _________________________ ________________________________________________________________
is not self-seeking 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I am selfish about __________________________________________________
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One way I can be more generous is ___________________________________
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is not easily angered 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I am easily angered by ______________________________________________
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One way I can exhibit more self-control is ______________________________
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keeps no record of wrongs 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I use my list of wrongs to ____________________________________________
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One way I can lessen my revenge is __________________________________
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does not delight in evil 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I take a perverse pleasure in ________________________________________
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One way I can seek goodness is to ___________________________________
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rejoices in the truth 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
These are the truths I rejoice in ______________________________________
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One true thing way I can rejoice in is __________________________________
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always protects 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I am protective by ________________________________________________
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One way I can be more protective is __________________________________
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always trusts 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I am trusting of __________________________________________________
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One way I can be more trusting is ___________________________________
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always hopes 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I am hopeful of _________________________________________________
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One way I can be more hopeful is __________________________________
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always perseveres 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I persevere by _________________________________________________
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One way I can be more persevering is ______________________________
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never fails 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I demonstrate my constancy by ____________________________________
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One way I can lessen my failure is _________________________________
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